Self Care

Right, I told you I’d be back to talk more about the Me Date and that art of dating yourself.

We spend a lot of time focusing on other people.

We’re focused on doing things for family, from day to day immediate family, to those who aren’t in our house but need support or assistance from us. Then we’re focused on work people, be it a boss and colleagues or business associates and customers. We’re focused on helping friends and often going out of our way for acquaintances, so they’ll like us more or do something for us in return. We have a lot on our plate.

A lot of us do not take a lot of time for ourselves and if I look around, I see a lot of people who are close to burnout.

This isn’t good for us or for anyone else in the long run.

There are a lot of things out there about self-care and there are a lot of them that focus on things that many of us just can’t even think about because of the money we’d have to throw at them. Trust me, if I could afford it I’d love a weekend trip to some lovely spa every two months. I’m pretty sure my mental health would benefit. For most of us, that’s not in the cards.

The Me Date is about self-care, yes, but it’s not all about the moola. What I want to do is start sharing ideas for how we can get happy dating ourselves, recharge our batteries, and be ready to keep on keeping on with our daily life.


me date beach location new zealand
What a view

A lovely friend of mine Amy from Chic Vintage Brides went on a little Me Date on the weekend. It involved a blanket, a book, lunch and pretty location. (Okay, it might have involved a vodka melon too, but that would be entirely optional.) I looked at the photos and could feel myself relaxing.

Me date picnic spot
A lovely spot

Being out in nature is good for us.

The fresh air, connecting with the earth, getting some Vitamin D (sunblock, sunblock, sunblock), is so good for us. And for me, it’s also about the elemental forces. Nothing makes me happier than sitting on a rock at the beach, feet in the water, the warmth of the sun on my skin, the coolness of the breeze. I feel in harmony and find balance in that moment. We need that kind of peaceful me-time.

So, I’ve decided to start thinking about what I can do on Me-Dates and to recharge and I’m going to share that with everyone else and hopefully, inspire some of you lovelies as well. And, as the ideas come to life there will be photos and updates.

This also means that I want to see what you are doing dating yourself. Tag me or hit me up with your own me-date and ideas and let’s share them. You never know who you might end up inspiring.

We can’t be our most faebulous self if we’re not looking after ourselves. Let’s get ready to rumble, I mean, take care of ourselves. We’re the only “me” we’ve got.

Until next time,



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3 thoughts on “The Art of Dating yourself.

  1. I can honestly say it was the PERFECT way to spend a morning (or half day – I wasn’t eating vodka melon in the morning, honest!) I can’t wait for the next sunny weekend!

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